When are you a quitter, and when are you a realist?

Funny...

I had some free time this weekend, and watched some TV at home.... (it's something I don't do much of anymore, but once in a while is fun)


There was America's Next Top Model, and then there was Project Runway. I am NOT the fashion kind, AT ALL, but it's still fun watching these so-called "reality" series.


In this week's episode of ANTM, this gal Ebony decided that she's had enough. Despite her cool looks, slender and tall build, and very bitchy attitude, she decided that modeling is NOT for her. That is after begging Tyra Banks (Exec Producer) to pick her in her audition tape, and doing quite well in previous photo shoots. When she volunteered to be "voted out", Tyra said she "the most unattractive thing in the world is a quitter" (Yes, I just checked it from YouTube to verify), and so Ebony goes.

Of course I'm not providing commentary on this, but it just got me thinking... when is quitting OK because you realize that it's just not gonna work however hard you try? Now of course you can say, for work situations, you just try for a little while longer and in the meantime, look for something better. Which I agree. But what if this is about relationships? You can't do that absolutely!

Can you rationally make a decision that no, it's not gonna work, and break it off? And we all say, oh of course, why waste each others' time? But if you think carefully, wouldn't you try your best to see if it could work because there's already so much invested? Especially when apparently both sides are still into each other?
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The property market has been on a rapid upswing for the last couple of months. But as most other investment tools, stocks, bonds, funds, etc., those so-called "experts" always tell us, we should set a target when to sell and when to cut losses. Does it apply to relationships too? hmmm.... hmmmmm.... hmmm... P-r-o-b-a-b-l-y...

Funny how we resort to songs we love for guidance. Then I think, what do those lyricists know? What make their lyrics a bible to love? Doesn't it belittle relationships because it's just a whole bunch of sappy words that rhyme? That was a joke. :) but honestly, what make these classic love songs reference materials of how we should handle relationships? Isn't that the beauty of human interactions, because everyone is different, so every relationship is different? But it seems not! Because the same issues always seem to come up. Stories you hear from friends, ones that you experience yourself. It is true, it's those sappy love songs on "Repeat" mode.

Here's one of those songs: "At the Brink of Love and Pain" by Faye Wong <愛與痛的邊緣>



A song I was listening to when I worked 'till 4am last week: "Getting Off By Mistake" by Sammi Cheng <落錯車>(that's a funny translation, eh? haha)



One of the newer Sandy favourites of mine: "Poor Communication" <詞不達意>



What we should aim to become? Sandy's "Goodbye Sadness" <再見悲哀>


再見悲哀 - 林憶蓮
作曲：Eric Kwok
填詞：林夕
編曲：Eric Kwok/Ted Lo
監製：Eric Kwok

＊再見悲哀因我不再計較任何結果
　甚麼都可以坦蕩未在乎誰是錯
　我兩眼合上失去甚麼　是與非也掠過
　別固執到問一切為何

　再見傷感因我不易被淚流留住我
　甚麼的境界都愛自自然地渡過
　去到最尾就如與物忘我　回復身心最初
　面對心鏡內一片平和
　鳥聲瞬間閃過　(這麼最好不過)＊

除了心　只有心　可以解心鎖
煩惱多　因我要得多
微似砂　輕似煙　怎會有風波
有惆悵　跌入了恆河

情路太彎　過就過　當是個經過
感動的愛　當做一次砌磋
沿途上遇上甚麼　都欣賞過
投入時便快樂一起過

REPEAT＊

傻也好　痴也好　因你記得多
忘記的　比你記的多

懷念最好　我便會　繼續愛惜我
花瓣飄過　美在不顧結果
人存活在世就似沙粒飛過
誰又曾為了誰褒貶過

REPEAT＊

這麼最好不過　全是一種經過